This online dating thing is exhausting sometimes. You meet a lot of people, some good, some not so good. Did you ever meet someone you felt like you totally clicked with online and were so excited to meet them in person only to find out that there was absolutely no spark and were completely disappointed? You could just continue as friends, but really, is that what you wanted? Most likely your answer is no. Nobody goes on a dating site to meet friends. So what do you do? Well, I guess just say thank you I’m not interested and move on. I know what you’re thinking, a pen pal wouldn’t be so bad … hmm well, could be. Remember, they’re probably still interested romantically in you. Sigh … how frustrating.
It’s happened to me several times. I have a total connection with the person online and then when we meet it’s something entirely different. It makes me wonder, are they really the person they are showing themselves to be online? Or is it just an act to get you to like them. I guess you never really do know until you meet. I have had some pretty awkward dates with men who I totally couldn’t stop chatting with online. Offline, they were boring and uninteresting. What happened between online and offline? Which one was the real guy? Could he be nervous, or is this really who he is? Lots of questions, never got any answers.
So what is the solution? Sometimes I feel like just keeping it online and not meeting. I really enjoy their company and we like to chat. Why not? Ok, granted it is a “pen pal” sort of situation, but at least you have someone interesting to chat with. Why run the risk of ruining it by meeting? But can you go back to just chatting after a bad date? I wish you could, but I think it could be awkward, don’t you? However, it’s all how you look at it. If you look at the first date as casual and friendly, then perhaps things would progress in a more positive way and you can continue chatting if the love chemistry isn’t there.
You decide, is it really worth meeting? Can we just be friends? Just don’t get too excited if you have a spark online … cause dating is “like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get”!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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