Douchebag. Someone with an inflated sense of self worth. Someone who thinks they are better than others. Someone who goes around treating other people as inferior to them. Someone who is obnoxious. Someone who thinks everyone want them and wants to be them. Someone who is arrogant. Someone you’ve most certainly dated. Although the term most often refers to men, many women can display just as much douchebaggery as men do.
The funny thing is, it’s these characteristics that probably attracted you to them in the first place! Well, I’ve been there, done that … even wrote about it. What’s most interesting about said douchebags is that you don’t really see it at first. Oh the red flags are most certainly there, but you ignore or miss it. The worst type of douchebag is the one that is seemingly the “nice guy” who ends up screwing you in the end (and not in the good way!). So why is dating a douchebag inevitable? I’ll tell you.
Why Dating a Douchebag is Inevitable
I think each and every person has a douchebag hidden inside of them. Some display it proudly, while most do not. It’s not the ones who are obvious douchebags that are the problem, it’s the nice guys who end up being jerks that get us in the end. Recently I read an article called Sometimes Being a Nice Guy Makes You Into a Jerk and it seriously resonated with me. Essentially, the author realized that being the nice guy had made him not very nice at all, being honest was what he really needed to be. He said that “being the guy who is honest, who embraces the truth regardless of how scary or ugly it is, is far more important than being the guy who is “nice” or well-liked“. Wow! Imagine that! Being honest is truly more valuable than being a “nice guy”.
More often than not, these so called nice guys end up being douchebags because they don’t want to look bad, so they aren’t honest with you. Case in point, people who can’t break up with you, they just disappear into a vortex or black hole never to be seen or heard of again. How about those who give you a lame cop out excuse for not wanting to continue your relationship? Then there’s those who will tell you whatever you want to hear just to get you to like them only to find out later that it isn’t who they were at all. What about those that cheat instead of working out their problems with their partners? They’re not all jerks on the outside either … but … yes, well, you get the picture. Dating a Douchebag.
Ways To Avoid Dating a Douchebag
I did say that dating a douchebag is inevitable. We’ve all been there, done that and hopefully learned our lessons. But, are there ways to avoid dating a douchebag? Yes, yes there are. Here are some things to keep in mind:
- trust your gut … even if someone seems like a great guy or girl, if you gut says different then trust your gut
- keep your eyes open … there will always be signs of their douchebaggery, look at how they treat other people or react to situations
- assess their values and ethics … do they match your own or do they have shady dealings?
- listen carefully … how do they speak with you? are they attentive to your needs or do their actions leave much to be desired?
- think … be smart, date smart and don’t fall for just anyone
OK everyone, all aboard the douchebag express … actually, no thanks … I’d rather stay home. The last time it was a bumpy ride and I got thrown off the train. Wouldn’t you rather stay home too? I’ve got wine and I’ve got scotch … you choose!
Have you boarded the douchebag express before and ended up dating a douchebag? I would love to hear about it in the comments!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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