I’ve gotten a lot of questions recently about meeting a significant other’s friends for the first time. It can be a very scary thing for some people, especially since many people’s friends have a lot of influence if not a say in what your own partner thinks of you. So when the person you’re dating thinks meeting their friends is the next step for you, what do you do? How do you act? How do you make a good first impression? Well, I’ll tell you! Here’s one question I received.
Dear Single Dating Diva,
I have been seeing my girlfriend for 3 months now and she wants me to meet her close friends. I really like her and think we’ve got something good, so how do I make sure that I make a good impression on her friends. What should I do? How much attention should I give them? I don’t want to upset my girlfriend by being too attentive. I’m a little confused, I hope you can help!
Wants to Make a Good Impression
Ask Single Dating Diva: Meeting Their Friends
Dear Wants to Make a Good Impression,
Thank you for your question, it’s a good one! Meeting their friends is a very important step in a relationship, sometimes even more important than meeting the parents. Their friends usually have a lot of influence on them, if they admit it or not. I can totally understand why you’re nervous about it! I would be too. You want to make a good impression and a large part of making a good impression is by putting your best foot forward. She obviously thinks you’re something special that she’s introducing you to her friends. Meeting their friends means that she thinks you’re worthy. She wouldn’t introduce you otherwise. Take it as a positive thing. You do care about her greatly and you know that this means a lot to her, so I’m going to help you make it a good experience for everyone.
Tips to Make Meeting Their Friends Easier
- ask your girlfriend about her friends and their own lives ahead of time
- look & smell your best, make sure she is proud of having you on her arm
- be polite and respect boundaries
- be a good listener, don’t make this a night all about you
- make sweet gestures to your girlfriend like touching or holding her hand, kissing her on the cheek
- have good topics of conversation handy and be an active participant
- make eye contact and engage them
- be charming but DON’T FLIRT
- buy a round of drinks if you can afford it
- don’t be argumentative, having a discussion is OK but don’t try to prove everyone wrong
Also remember that you can’t impress everyone. Truth is not everyone is going to like you and that’s OK. As long as you did your best and your girlfriend was happy that’s all that is important. In the end you know that you just have to be true to you and not over think the whole event or do anything that doesn’t come naturally to you. Enjoy it because meeting their friends is a GOOD THING.
Hope this helps!
Readers what do you think? How do you approach meeting their friends for the first time? Do you agree with my tips? I would love to hear about it in the comments!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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If you managed to win her heart, there’s no reason why you can’t win her friends’!
That’s very true and that’s why she wants to introduce you as well.
First impression count and I think Single Dating Diva’s tips are key…look and smell nice. If you can win the ‘girlfriends’ of your girlfriend you’ll be one step ahead.
Good tips! I agree that being attentive to and curious about her friends is a great way to make a good impression.
Thanks Neely! It also helps them be more engaging.
It’s sad but true, if you’re going to win your significant other, you have to win their friends, too. Thanks for the tips Diva!
Thanks Aaron! I am a big believer that your partner should be a good fit in your life, and that includes your friends and family!!
It is true that wooing the friends can be more crucial than winning the favor of the fam! Getting the pre-game deets on what their friends are like can be the best way to smooth the intro!
I can’t flirt? What kind of advice are you giving here, Diva? LOL! Seriously, great stuff as usual. However, if you’re going to buy everyone a round of drinks, then pray she only has two friends. 🙂 Once the friends like you, then you’re that much closer to being safe in the relationship.
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