I’ve gotten a lot of questions recently about meeting a significant other’s friends for the first time. It can be a very scary thing for some people, especially since many people’s friends have a lot of influence if not a say in what your own partner thinks of you. So when the person you’re dating thinks meeting their friends is the next step for you, what do you do? How do you act? How do you make a good first impression? Well, I’ll tell you! Here’s one question I received.
Dear Single Dating Diva,
I have been seeing my girlfriend for 3 months now and she wants me to meet her close friends. I really like her and think we’ve got something good, so how do I make sure that I make a good impression on her friends. What should I do? How much attention should I give them? I don’t want to upset my girlfriend by being too attentive. I’m a little confused, I hope you can help!
Wants to Make a Good Impression
Ask Single Dating Diva: Meeting Their Friends
Dear Wants to Make a Good Impression,
Thank you for your question, it’s a good one! Meeting their friends is a very important step in a relationship, sometimes even more important than meeting the parents. Their friends usually have a lot of influence on them, if they admit it or not. I can totally understand why you’re nervous about it! I would be too. You want to make a good impression and a large part of making a good impression is by putting your best foot forward. She obviously thinks you’re something special that she’s introducing you to her friends. Meeting their friends means that she thinks you’re worthy. She wouldn’t introduce you otherwise. Take it as a positive thing. You do care about her greatly and you know that this means a lot to her, so I’m going to help you make it a good experience for everyone.
- ask your girlfriend about her friends and their own lives ahead of time
- look & smell your best, make sure she is proud of having you on her arm
- be polite and respect boundaries
- be a good listener, don’t make this a night all about you
- make sweet gestures to your girlfriend like touching or holding her hand, kissing her on the cheek
- have good topics of conversation handy and be an active participant
- make eye contact and engage them
- be charming but DON’T FLIRT
- buy a round of drinks if you can afford it
- don’t be argumentative, having a discussion is OK but don’t try to prove everyone wrong
Also remember that you can’t impress everyone. Truth is not everyone is going to like you and that’s OK. As long as you did your best and your girlfriend was happy that’s all that is important. In the end you know that you just have to be true to you and not over think the whole event or do anything that doesn’t come naturally to you. Enjoy it because meeting their friends is a GOOD THING.
Hope this helps!
Readers what do you think? How do you approach meeting their friends for the first time? Do you agree with my tips? I would love to hear about it in the comments!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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