How To Be More Spontaneous When Single


Your comfort zone can be, well, comfortable … BUT how is that helping your quest for lasting love? Not much. If you have the same routines and you’re still single, you might want to try a different approach. One thing you can try is being more spontaneous. Being more spontaneous means thinking less and doing more – it’s unplanned, without too much thought and impulsive. But how can you be more spontaneous when single? Read on to find out.

How To Be More Spontaneous When Single

Although extreme spontaneity and impulsive behavior aren’t always recommended, trying something off your beaten path can make a world of difference for your dating life. You can do it safely by listening to your gut instincts while following your heart – not your mind. If you overthink it, you won’t succeed. Overcome your anxieties and be brave. Just tell yourself it’s all for a good cause. It’s one of those things that you need to “just do it”. It should be about you stepping outside of your comfort zone and not about creating chaos in your life or someone else’s (and make sure it’s legal!).

Here are some ideas how to be more spontaneous:

Baby Steps

Starting small helps you be more comfortable in your spontaneity. For example, do something different for dinner or on a night off. Try a new restaurant, get a different type of coffee one morning, or take a different road to work. This will help you get the courage to do bigger things without stepping too far out of your comfort zone.

Bigger Steps

Now that you’re a little more comfortable with stepping outside of your routine, you can try stepping it up a notch. For example, take a routine day and switch it up. Instead of spending the day binging on Netflix, try going out somewhere, see where your urges pull you. Call up a friend and take a road trip for the day. It’s OK to do something that scares you a little, but when you’ve done it you’ll feel so much better and you’ll have a great sense of accomplishment.

Say “Yes”

When someone asks you to do something, embrace it! Just do it! Say yes! Does your friend want to go out for a drink? Were you invited to a party? Do your co-workers want to go out after work? DO IT! Forget your routine. Trying something new can bring you new experiences, expose you to new people. You never know who you’re going to meet. You certainly won’t meet them sitting at home eating dinner alone or watching TV.

Leave “Boring” Out of Your Vocabulary

Boring activities don’t add value to your life. Your routine could be draining your motivation to have a more fulfilled life. Injecting more fun into your life could mean the difference between living a lonely life and companionship. Learning a new skill, joining a group, being active, will help you be a more interesting person and will fill your days with more positive experiences.

Being Spontaneous Will Make You More Interesting

Singles want to date someone who is interesting. Think of your best dates, weren’t they fascinating? Didn’t you want to learn more about them and what they do? On the flip side, haven’t you been on boring dates or met dull people? Don’t be the uninteresting date. Being a spontaneous person when dating will keep the other person more engaged, besides giving you great stories to talk about.

So, if asked what you are doing this weekend and you feel compelled to say “nothing, just the usual” then challenge yourself to step outside your comfort zone, be spontaneous and try looking for love offline. It’s OK to be a little scared or anxious about it, but being spontaneous when single will help move you closer to attracting the love you desire – one step at a time!


READERS: Are you stuck in the same dating routine? Have you ever tried being spontaneous? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

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