Picture it. Anywhere in the world. 2022. You have been chatting with someone and everything seems to be going great and, then, BAM, out of nowhere they disappear into a black hole never to be seen or heard from ever again. You may be thinking WTF!? Why? What did I do wrong? What happened? BUT what you really should be doing is looking for the first exit sign and hightailing it out of there. Close your own damn door.
We do not always get closure, as much as we want it. Torturing yourself is only giving them power over your thoughts and actions. I know, I know, it sucks to never know what happened or why they disappeared, it’s a real ego crusher. Instead of wasting your energy and power on someone who clearly doesn’t want you or respect you enough to do it in a proper way and does not deserve you – use your energy for healing and finding better. It is as simple as that.
Closure comes when you choose it. Whether a romantic or family or friend relationship ends, it is all the same. Give yourself closure. Choose to move on without all the answers. Choose to live your life in a better place because no one is taking up free real estate in your mind. Choose to replace their presence with something better. Choose happiness and peace of mind.
This week’s mantra:
“I DO NOT need closure.”
Write it down. Repeat it. BELIEVE IT!