Boundaries and Power [Be a Rockstar]

These posts are meant to lead you be your most empowered self and help you overcome those things that are holding you back from reaching your goals. Some of this might resonate with you, or not, and I’m not here to judge anyone or their actions, only to give you something to think about.

Boundaries are one of those things we recognize that we need but we rarely enforce them. The result is that we are left unfulfilled and unhappy. We give our power away when we all our boundaries to be crossed. Empowerment means guarding those boundaries, respecting them ourselves so that others will respect them as well.

If you are a “people pleaser” or even just looking for love and let things like red flags slip through the cracks, you will end up in the worst places possible. This is why it’s time to stand up for yourself and be firm on your boundaries with others. Self-care starts with self-respect and you can’t expect anyone to truly respect you or treat you as you deserve if you do not see your own worth.

Where to start:

  • Reflect and recognize your physical, mental and emotional boundaries.
  • Write them down and post them where you can see them for a constant reminder.
  • Enforce them. If you don’t succeed, dust yourself off, get up, try again.

Affirmation & Gratitude:

Each morning make sure to affirm your boundaries and enforce it throughout the day. If you don’t accomplish what you set out to do, be kind with yourself, figure out why you keep letting people do what they do to you and try again the next day.

“When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated.”

[Brené Brown]

Your Takeaway

  1. Boundaries are where you end and someone else begins – this includes physically, mentally and emotionally.
  2. When there is a lack of boundaries, lines can get crossed very easily because a lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect and also invites others to take your power.
  3. Setting the expectation of how you want and should be treated (what is acceptable or not) results in a more empowered self as well as healthier relationships with others.
  4. When someone crosses this boundary you need to communicate this to them, otherwise your boundary doesn’t have meaning (like one country invading another).
  5. Affirming what your boundaries are will help empower you. It’s about self-care and knowing your worth – and letting OTHERS know and respect your worth.

TRY THIS: Write down what your acceptable physical, mental and emotional boundaries are. Post it somewhere you can see it to remind yourself, especially when you tend to allow people to cross those thresholds.

POST IT NOTE: I will honor my boundaries

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