Dear Friends … I left you yesterday wondering about possible fetishes.  Thanks to the many of you who sent me some guesses of possible things my online buddy could have wanted to share with me.  Some fetishes you sent: foot, toilet stuff, balloons, costumes, food … all good guesses but not even close!  It got me thinking about fetishes, are they normal or abnormal?  I mean if it’s between two consenting adults, why not?  Seriously.  I don’t think it’s a problem.  Safety and consent is essential and then anything goes.  What floats your boat and rocks your world is very personal.  If it’s an essential part of who you are, who am I to judge or make fun of you?  It’s up to me whether I am game or not.

Fetish du jour?

Now back to my story.  So buddy said he had something to tell me.  I was ready for anything.  I mean I’ve seen and heard it all, it takes a lot to shock me.  So I said go ahead, tell me.  He went on to say that ever since he was young he has been into “diaperism“.  What is that I asked (while I quickly googled it).  Essentially, he likes to wear diapers even though he doesn’t need them.  OK, I thought.  Then he went on, he actually had a diaper fetish.  He needs to be wearing a diaper in order to get sexually aroused.  Not only wear the diaper, but actually use it and act like a baby.  The women participant being the mother who changes the diaper and breast feeds him.

At first I thought he was joking with me, trying to get a reaction.  So I played along and asked for more details.  So he went through a fantasy of “mommy” spanking him because he dirtied his diaper and to soothe him after he cried, she breast fed him … and this eventually led to sex.  As he went on, I realized, this guy is for real! OMG … what do I say?  I don’t want to “judge” but c’mon … what do I say???  I’m just glad I was on the other end of a computer screen and not face to face.  So I basically thanked him for being brave enough to share that with me (how adult of me!) and that I understood that was important to him, but it just wasn’t something I was comfortable participating in.  He seemed to totally understand and we decided to sever our connection.  Too bad really, because he was nice to talk to! NEXT!!!

So I was finding that this online dating stuff wasn’t quite yielding the results I was anticipating.  Large quantity, crappy quality. I decided to “hide” my profile for a little while and go in search of other ways to meet men!

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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