I recently was reading an article about good and bad dating karma. Basically, the notion that you can attract positive or negative energy that is directly in correlation to your actions. I am a firm believer that when you are positive you attract positive energy and when you are negative, negative energy. But does this apply to dating as well? I don’t see why not. The old saying “what goes around comes around” seems to apply here. So I’ve had some crappy dating energy lately, is it because of something I did? Said? Perhaps. It’s time to reflect.
I try in general to be a positive person, but it’s quite challenging, especially when things don’t seem to fall into place. But I don’t intentionally hurt anyone … it’s not my style. But is this blog creating bad karma? I wonder. I don’t name names and I do tell the truth in hopes of sharing my experiences with others, so no, I don’t think it’s the blog. I found this article about “Rules for Great Dating Karma“ that I posted on Twitter yesterday, I’m going to go through each “rule” and see if I am guilty of some of these. Perhaps this will help my dry spell …
Dating Karma Rule #1 = Quit complaining about your love life
Who me? Complain? Ok, ya I do. I kind of think it sucks that I am divorced and back in the dating scene. I thought I was done with this when I got married … marriage is forever, right? Well I guess not. So I do complain that I am divorced, I complain that there are no good men out there, I complain that I have so many failed attempts at dating, I complain that men only want to have sex with me, I complain … OK you get the picture. I am also a great listener and enabler of my friends’ complaining about THEIR love life … hmm now that I think of it, that’s a lot of negative energy swirling around. OK, so check mark here … I have definitely broken Dating Karma Rule #1.
Dating Karma Rule #2 = Be really, really honest
Here, I don’t think I have really broken it. I am an honest person (I can’t lie, my face reveals EVERYTHING!). I do only share certain information with certain people though. I share what I feel I need to share. I don’t intentionally lie or keep important information from anyone. On a date, you only need to share certain things and reveal more as time goes on. I don’t hide that I’m divorced or dating more than one person at a time sometimes. So, really, I can honestly say that here I have not broken Dating Karma Rule #2 … does intentionally not telling guys about my blog count? LOL!
Dating Karma Rule #3 = Put your past where it belongs
Keeping the past in the past. Well, I have been known to bring up my ex-husband a lot, but only when someone asks. But I think maybe I go too much in detail when it’s not necessary… maybe I should just go to therapy LOL and not talk on dates!!! I do speak about previous relationships too. Hmm … OK, guilty as charged. I should just leave my past in my past and have a “canned” response that I give. No one wants to hear about my failed marriage. I don’t want to hear about it either! OK … done … I have broken Dating Karma Rule #3 and I must make amends.
Dating Karma Rule #4 = Play Matchmaker
This one makes me laugh. I’ll tell you why. I am queen of matchmaking. I try to see “connections” everywhere. Here is the problem … everyone I set up seem to really like each other a lot, at first. Yes, then the hatred and loathing comes. Everyone I have ever set up end up not being able to even stand each other in the end. No successful match ups on my part. But each time I am so sure! So I have taken a matchmaking hiatus for the benefit of humanity, that should be good karma, right? Well, I do have a couple I am contemplating hooking up … maybe for my birthday … just happen to invite him and her … hmm … OK Dating Karma Rule #4, big check!
Dating Karma Rule #5 = Resist the urge to gossip
I am so guilty of this. I will admit I like to gossip. I can’t help it. I have tried so hard to not do it. But there’s nothing better than a piece of juicy gossip that you know your friend is going to just LOVE. However, I do make a conscious effort to not spread gossip that might hurt someone or ruin their reputation. As well, the only things I speak about are things that I witnessed myself. OK, I am trying to rationalize, I know. Gossip is bad in all shapes and forms. Someone once told me that when a word leaves your mouth you no longer have control over it. It’s true, you might not have bad intentions to what you’re saying about someone but you don’t know how others can use this information. I now solemnly promise to not gossip. Promise. Really. I mean it. Dating Karma Rule #5 … check!
So there you have it … bad karma? Looks that way! I vow to myself, and to my readers to be positive and influence others around me positively … let’s see how I fare. I don’t like dry spells! However, I have taken this time to re-assess what I want and to enrich myself. Always important … especially since my 35th birthday is coming up soon! Yikes! Focus on good and forget the bad … that’s my new mantra!
Sending all of you lots of positive love, health and happiness energy!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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