Letting Go

They say truly letting go is an art. That most people never really truly release another person, that they will always have a part of them in you. Is it possible to really let go of someone else or does their memory have to haunt you forever? I personally think that you can never really let someone go, especially those who have had a profound impact on you, good or bad. So what do you do then? Just hide it in the back of your mind and move forward? Well, it’s not really that simple is it? Emotions ALWAYS get in the way.

This past weekend I was at one of my best friend’s bachelorette parties. It was lots of fun and I had a nice time with some good friends celebrating. One of our activities was going out to a night club, which generally is quite enjoyable, however, a few of my ex liaisons from the past couple years happened to be there too that night. Oh what fun! So, what is a girl to do? Just when you think you wipe out someone from your mind, there they are creeping back in. Not the feelings mind you, just the memories, good and bad. Let’s just say, good thing I had been drinking since the afternoon!

We said our hellos, I try to always be civil, try, and I stuck with my friends. The funny thing is that most of these guys came in one after the other … I swear it was like a nightmare come true. Picture it, one comes in, says hi, how are you, then moves on, then another one walks in … and another … and another. First I thought it was the alcohol, perhaps I’m imagining, but nope, there they all were. So I ask again is it truly possible to ever REALLY let go? I say yes. Is it possible to forget? Well, no.

Although I really didn’t want to see them and although seeing them brought back memories, it didn’t spark feelings. THAT was a bonus. One of them looked quite sexy actually which usually would make me hot under the collar … but I didn’t cave. I was very proud of myself. I realized each person you meet becomes a part of who you are, and if you date them they leave a lasting impression that you will never forget because you learn from it. Well, at least I did.

Lesson learned. It’s ok not to completely let go, but take all that negative energy and turn it into something good. You never have to go back there again, but you can use that experience to make yourself a better person and a better dater. So instead of running away from your past, embrace it and be proud of it. It has made you and transformed you into the butterfly that you are!

Stirring the Dating Sauce,

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva