Here we are again dear friends … another new year is at hand and for all the singles out there, it means making that resolution to try harder to find your happily ever after. We all know that definitely sounds easier than it really is. Whether you’re newly single, or an old pro at dating, the new year is an opportunity to refresh and refocus in order to get the most out of your single and dating life. Besides, what’s a new year without new year’s resolutions, right? We all make them and we all break them, but, one thing they do signify is a willingness to do things differently and to enhance your life. So this is why I thought I would help you along with your essential top 5 dating resolutions for the new year. Yes, dating resolutions, because, well, why not … maybe, just maybe, these one’s you’ll really keep after you see how well they work!
Your Essential Top 5 Dating Resolutions for the New Year
There’s a fabulous new year ahead of you … you just need to believe it! My suggestions are simple and logical. You can do this! I’m going to help you along the way with the following essential top 5 dating resolution for the new year:
- Be Happily Single:
I know, I know, it sounds impossible for some of you but it’s absolutely necessary. What being happily single means is that you don’t define yourself by your single status, that you focus on personal growth rather than obsessing about finding a partner, that you don’t indulge in constant pity parties, you have to be your best self physically as well as emotionally AND you live your life to the fullest, enjoying every moment. Remember, single is NOT a bad word!!
- Have an Attitude of Gratitude:
Believe it or not, daily gratitude can bring love your way! How? Because being grateful makes you a happier person overall and helps you see that despite any hardship you’re facing, there still is a lot of good in your life. As a result, you are happy and satisfied in your life and this opens up your life for new positive experiences, including love. Ever since I have started a gratitude journal where I document things I’m grateful for daily my life has taken an incredible turn for the positive. Try it, trust me, it changes so much in your life. Regardless of how bad it seems you’re still luckier than a lot of people in the world, remember that.
- Be Realistic:
Over the years, the one thing I’ve noticed the most with singles is their unrealistic expectations. These expectations are keeping them single. There is an entitlement epidemic out there with singles who are overvaluing themselves reaching for things (or people) that perhaps are out of their reach. This, unfortunately, means that they are never satisfied with what they’ve got (even if they have an amazing person sitting in front of them). To singles, the dating grass is always greener on the other side which means no one is ever good enough for them. It’s time to take it down a notch and look at what you bring to the table and if that coincides with what your “type” wants. Being realistic will help you keep things in perspective and assist you in finding real love.
- Know What You Want:
You have to be honest with yourself about what you want from a significant other. This means listing your “must haves” and your “non negotiables”. This should be values based and not materialistic or image based. Ask yourself, is it really that important that they have a full head of hair? Or that they look like a Victoria’s Secret model? Some things are “nice to have” but not that important. Be objective and list your absolute needs, you might be surprised as to what you come up with. A great way to do this is to go over the past relationships you’ve had and write down what you liked and didn’t like about them. Take the likes and there’s your core list.
- Take Dating Offline:
While Online Dating provides a great opportunity to meet many new people that you might not have otherwise met, you need to be extremely careful with your interactions. Online Dating could definitely provide a great ego boost but remember none of it is real until you meet in person. That’s why I advocate taking it offline as soon as possible (in a public place). This also means meeting people in other ways other than online. For example attending events and taking part in activities you’re interested in can result in meeting that special person. Approach people in public, it’s OK if you’re rejected sometimes, but at least try!
Finding your happily ever after IS possible, you have to believe it and you have to put in the effort to make it happen. This could very well be your year but you won’t find out by sulking at home and watching TV eating junk food feeling sorry for yourself. You ARE worth it! Believe it! Feel it! Do something about it!!
Wishing each and every one of you a safe, happy and healthy new year filled with lots of love of every kind!
READERS: Do you have any dating resolutions for the new year? I’d love to hear about them! Share your thoughts in the comments below!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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Be Realistic. Okay what really grinds my gears more than anything else is when people tell me because I am older I need to drop my expectations. For example while talking to my mother she said I need to get over the getting married and dating single fathers and instead be open to never marrying and dating dads. While I realize I may never marry, I refuse to date someone that doesn’t want to eventually marry nor do I want a single dad. I don’t even get why people argue with me about this.It’s bad enough I never found anyone to begin with, but now have to lower my expectations to the point I am scraping bottom of the barrel?
However, I’ve seen people wanting things they aren’t. For example I see lots of 40 something unattractive obese men wanting much younger or women with kids looking for successful childless men. These people are delusional. I firmly believe that seeking for something you are makes sense and wanting someone not like you is delusional.
I especially like the take dating offline. I believe “online dating” is the worst thing to happen to dating. In fact, it’s eliminating “dating” all together, and replacing it with ambivalence of “hanging out” and “talking to”. I believe going offline the answer to 1, 2 and 4 in your points. Forget the resolution, we need a revolution!
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