These posts are meant to lead you be your most empowered self and help you overcome those things that are holding you back from reaching your goals. Some of this might resonate with you, or not, and I’m not here to judge anyone or their actions, only to give you something to think about.
Is home really where the heart is? For so many people home is not a place of empowerment, rather, it is the first place that took away their power. The traumas they experiences, whether it was intentional or not, shaped the type of person they became. As a result, they go through life with an empty cup, craving validation from others while relishing their status as a victim or even someone who is broken.
On the flip side, some people grew up in a healthy environment that encouraged them, uplifted them and showed them endless love and opportunity. Most people, I would imagine, straddle somewhere in the middle. Most, including me, have had both good and bad experiences growing up. I dealt with a lot of generational trauma that I needed to sort through and heal from because I did not want to pass it on to my kids. Each person has their own unique experience, but what is important is that they acknowledge and even appreciate it, heal what they need to heal and move forward a better and stronger person.
A family that is healthy is one that functions in a smooth way, respects and values each other, deals with its challenges positively as well as loving and supporting each other freely. When this is the case, every one does well and reaches their full potential, not because they were enabled but because they were given the freedom to be who they are while still being given boundaries. This results in the ability to fill their own cups and feeling empowered. This person will, as an adult, be confident and fulfilled. No one will be able to take their power because they ARE power and empowered. This is the goal. Anything outside this results in going forward in a place of lack, always with an empty cup, until they learn to empower themselves. Where do you fit in?
Where to start:
- Reflect on your own personal experience with family. Did they uplift you or did they bring you down? Were you empowered or not?
- Do the necessary work to help you reach your full potential mentally, emotionally and physically. This will help you learn to fill your cup and take back your power which is the ultimate goal.
Affirmation & Gratitude:
Your feel good journal will help you live a more grateful life. When you learn to see the best in life, in each day, you learn to forgive and learn from the past in order to do better. Your affirmations will be your commitments to change.
- The homes we grow up in as well as our childhood tend to define the person we become. Those experiences shape who we are. If we were uplifted or destroyed, it then reflects on our adulthood in a big way – and our feelings of empowerment. Divorce does the same thing.
- Any trauma, shame, feelings of inadequacy will ensure our cups are never full and as a result, we will fill it all the things that will further take our power away.
- It is important to sort out your self-worth and empowerment as soon as you can. This means doing the work you need to do as soon as you can do it. But you have to be ready and willing to commit to the process or else it will not work. Your affirmations and gratitude will help with that.
- One thing I read once is that sometimes friends become enemies, enemies become friends and friends become family. So do not narrow your definition of “family”. Sometimes the family we choose uplifts us more than our biological one.
- Inter-generational trauma is real and more common than you think (that’s why it’s a new common Disney theme)! If you have experienced this, you can either keep passing it on or do better and put a stop to it with you.
TRY THIS: Reflect on the most memorable, impactful and significant moments of your childhood – good and bad – and write down how they affected the person you are today. If you need someone to talk to about it, seek out help.
POST IT NOTE: I will live an empowered life regardless of my family
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