George and Amal: Giving Hope to Hopeless Dating Situations?

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OK I had to jump on the George and Amal bandwagon. I am Arab after all, and Arabs are having a field day with this wonderful news. I have to say there is a lot of Lebanese pride right now lol, I mean, Lebanese girls do have a certain “je ne sais quoi“. Even Pitbull sang “in Lebanon the women are bomb” (yes I’m Lebanese LOL). OK I’ll stop now LOL. I really do wish the happy couple all the best. I mean confirmed bachelor George had sworn to never marry and then all of a sudden here comes this accomplished Arab beauty and sweeps him off his feet. Good on her! Poor guy, he didn’t know what hit him! Women everywhere are in shock and awe … women everywhere want to know her secret!! What was so special and different about her? Well, I guess we’ll never really know, but what stood out to me was how this event gave hope to women in hopeless dating situations everywhere. If confirmed bachelor George is “settling down” could their very own irresistible playboys do the same?

Giving Hope to Hopeless Dating Situations?

bachelorMany women are in hopeless dating situations. They are chasing men who are emotionally unavailable and, frankly, uninterested in being in a long term relationship, or are they? The other day I posted an “ecard” that essentially said that men who say they don’t want, or “aren’t ready” for a relationship are basically keeping their options open. So I put the question out there to guys … was this true? I got various responses, most men said it’s not that they weren’t ready for a relationship, they just didn’t want one with this particular person. We all know this is true because all of a sudden this same man gets the “thunderbolt” from another woman and BAM! he’s committed. Let’s be fair, women do the same thing. So if someone is in a hopeless dating situation, is there any hope?

I have always maintained that if someone wants to be with you they will be. Regardless of how hard you try, you can’t make someone want to be with you or commit to you if they really don’t want to. People will waste years of their life in a hopeless situation clinging to any fantastical hope they can find only to be disappointed in the end. Why do they do that? Well, I guess it’s about ego and not wanting to admit that they can’t succeed with this person. The same thing happened with Johnny Depp, remember he spent many years with Vanessa Paradis without getting married and then BAM he meets someone new and he’s engaged. What does this all mean? Well, it means that you shouldn’t waste your time in hopeless situations. You may think that George and Amal bring a glimmer of hope to those who want their playboys to potentially settle down, but, can an old dog learn new tricks?

Old Dog, New Tricks?

So can an old dog learn new tricks? There’s an easy answer … yes, if he wants to and has the right motivation. Can you teach an old dog new tricks? Nope. You can’t. People don’t change who they are, but they do adapt when given the right incentive. Playboys, players, Peter Pan … it’s all the same, you just have to be the right women, in the right time and the right place when they finally decide that they want to commit. You can’t inspire them, you can’t force them, you can’t train them. What can you do? Well, be yourself, be true to you and if it’s going to happen then it will. Plain. Simple.

Don’t waste your time in a hopeless dating situation for too long. Listen to your gut and be realistic. Fantasy is nice, for a little while, I know, I’ve been there, but you need to know your limits in order not to get sucked in. So are George and Amal REALLY giving hope to hopeless dating situations? No, not really. I mean anything is possible, it isn’t “black and white” … this is definitely grey area. Amal was the right woman, in the right time and the right place. Sorry ladies … it’s just how the cookie crumbles. No secret recipe, no playing hard to get, no games. Amal was true to herself and won George over. Will it be happily ever after? Well, I hope so, I mean ANYTHING is possible, isn’t it?

Readers: Are George and Amal an exception to the rule or do you think there is hope for people in hopeless dating situations? I would love to hear about it in the comments!

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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10 comments

  1. I totally agree with what you said about not wasting too long in a hopeless dating situation. When I want something to progress but it isn’t for whatever reason – but I for some reason think the person is being genuine about why not – I set a date limit on it in my head. I pick a date in the future and make a decision that if things haven’t moved forward by that date then I have to cut it off. I find it works pretty well for me 🙂

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  2. I couldn’t agree more! Us women hang on to men hopelessly for far too long. (Which of course only pushes them further away) it’s long overdue time when we wise up and move on and find the man who wants to be with us!

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    • Thanks Amy! What a concept huh? Being with someone who actually wants to be with us? Unfortunately, we like that challenge sometimes, but eventually we come to the realization that it’s not healthy for us to hang on too long to a hopeless situation.

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  3. I think you nailed it. Its about timing, and a man evolving. Men with options like George, get to sample every type of woman there is. Eventually, if he’s smart, and growing, he learns about what’s important to him. When he does find a woman with the attributes he deems important, settling down becomes a forgone conclusion. Great article!

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    • Thanks Derek! It really is all about timing … if something doesn’t happen then you can’t force it. People do things when they are ready to do them and they have the right inspiration. It’s simpler than we make it really.

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    • Thanks Marrie! Timing really is everything. There are so many factors to consider, it’s not only about finding the right person, it’s about being READY for this person to have a significant place in your life.

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  4. I can appreciate that single women everywhere could use a boost of hope! I recommend we not look to our beloved, George for it, but to eligible men who are interested in commitment and monogamy. Yes, it’s true. The confirmed bachelor has flipped to “settling down”. But do you know how many millions of men actually naturally want to? Men who know who they are, speak their truth, then change their mind make me feel unsafe. The only hope I have is this lovely woman doesn’t wind up feeling like she’s the jailor, holding the keys to his freedom.

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    • Thanks Wendy! You’re absolutely right! There are many men out there who ARE interested in commitment and monogamy and we as women need to focus our attentions on them and stop chasing the unavailable ones who seem oh so irresistible!

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