Is your dating life filled with missed opportunities? Did you ever meet someone you really like and walked away without sealing the deal? Do you kick yourself for not getting a number or asking to see them again? It’s hard sometimes to get up the courage to ask for a number or a date. Your nerves might get the best of you and you convince yourself that they won’t go out with you, but, you really never know unless you ask, right? I will show you how to never walk away from a great conversation or meeting without sealing the deal. Even if you’re not so eloquent or even if they don’t respond positively, each time you take the chance is one step further to a great experience. You’ll get better and better at it each time and in no time you’ll be a pro. Don’t ever have another missed opportunity … read on find out how to seal the deal with someone you like!
Dating? How to “Seal the Deal” With Someone You Like
1: Be Datable
Being datable is so important! Look good … ALWAYS look good! You need to be your best self and put your best foot forward. Physical attraction IS important. That means dressing appropriately and having impeccable grooming. Be friendly, smiling and have good eye contact with everyone you’re speaking to. Know why someone should date you. Marketing yourself the RIGHT way is extremely important. Confidence is sexy so know who you are and what you have to offer. The first thing I always get my clients to do is to write down the top 5 reasons someone would want to date them – these have to be unique and not generic. You have to know what makes you different and stand out from the crowd then SELL IT!
2: Mentally Prepare
You can either psych yourself out or psych yourself up. Visualize yourself succeeding. Focus on all the great things you have to offer, be confident and think about succeeding. But also accept that sometimes failure is inevitable, rather leverage it as a learning opportunity. Remember that success doesn’t happen overnight. Believe in yourself, define your goal and work at it. Don’t worry about what could go wrong but focus on what could go right. Don’t think about worst case scenarios. Don’t compare yourself to others. When you’re prepared mentally you will feel more confident regardless of the outcome.
3: Learn How To Read Body Language
When you can read body language, essentially you will be able to effectively read between the lines. Body language speaks louder than words when dating. This is why you should pay close attention to the signals you’re giving out. You should also pay even closer attention to the nonverbal communication queues the other person is giving out. You can tell if someone is responsive to you or not by how they act towards you. For example, are they actively listening, having eye contact and moving closer to you? Then that’s positive. If they’re moving away, looking elsewhere and they’re not engaged in the conversation then don’t bother. It all should feel comfortable or natural. Mirroring the other person’s body language will also score you bonus points. It increases their comfort level.
4: Be Interesting
Don’t play hard to get but BE hard to forget. Make sure that you’re a good communicator and great conversationalist. Be knowledgeable about current and relevant topics in the world. Always have an interesting topic under your belt. There are so many websites that talk about whatever is going on that’s interesting in the world, fun facts and about current events. Google News, for example, is a good one as is the Flipboard. I also like Mind Body Green‘s things you need to know today. I get my clients to learn something new every day and to be prepared to talk about it in minimal time. Don’t talk about yourself unless you’re talking about what you’re passionate about or something you’ve done that’s interesting. Also, talk about what’s going on around you and discuss common interests. Remember to be a good listener and paraphrase, have a good discussion. No drama. No baggage. No oversharing. You need to stand out from the crowd and demonstrate why they should give you that number.
5: Just Do It
First, let me say NO pickup lines! No one likes pickup lines. Don’t give up. Also remember that flattery will get you EVERYWHERE! Just don’t be cheesy about it. A well-placed compliment will get you far. Shia LaBeouf said it best “Don’t let your dreams be dreams. Yesterday, you said tomorrow. So just do it! … What are you waiting for?! DO IT! JUST DO IT! YES, YOU CAN! JUST DO IT! If you’re tired of starting over, STOP GIVING UP!” You can’t keep doing the same things over and over and expect different results. Get out of your comfort zone and be brave! Love is on the other side of your comfort zone so JUST DO IT!
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Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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