The 3 Fundamental Steps to Empowerment: how you can find empowerment for yourself.

Empowerment is within each and every one of us. We’re born with the ability to choose. Even as babies we expressed our comfort and discomfort with things. Why, as adults do we give up our power and shy away from standing up for ourselves. Our boundaries are not enforced, so therefore are not respected by others. Then we wonder why we aren’t where we want to be in life and why we are unhappy. I was the same way. It was never me it was always “them”, or it was my bad luck. It was only when I realized that I was at the root of all my experiences, that I was in charge of my own narrative, that I was able to turn my life around and upgrade my life. You also can find empowerment for yourself, keep reading for my three fundamental steps to empowerment.

The 3 Fundamental Steps to Empowerment

Step 1: Believe in Yourself.

Believing in yourself is the first step to empowerment. It means having enough faith in your abilities. It includes things like trusting in yourself, being confident in your abilities and an enhanced self-worth. This leads to happiness and fulfillment. Believing in yourself also means that you believe that you have the power to make positive changes in your life. Controlling your thoughts means controlling your life.

You can do this by focusing on your strengths and not the things that you don’t do as well. Build on them, work on them, make them even stronger. I always advise people to know who they are and what they have to offer the world. Write it down if you have to. This confidence will help take you to the next level in your life. This also could mean stepping outside your comfort zone at times, but, as they say, all good things happen outside your comfort zone. It really is as simple as believing that you can will ultimately make it true.

Step 2: Realize You Have Choices.

How you react to situations ultimately has everything to do with you, each day you have countless choices that you can make. For instance, you can choose to be in a bad mood or you can choose to be in a good mood, being happy is a choice, some might have to try harder than others, but it is still a choice. Again, as we spoke of earlier, it’s about taking ownership of your life and empowerment and not basing it on the actions of other people because they only can have as much control as you give them. Others will treat you how you let them, never forget that. The only person who can really empower you is yourself.

Focusing on the things that you CAN change in your life will also help you make those better choices for you because deep down you know exactly what it is that you want to do with your life so trust your gut. This will lead you to make more mindful decisions and not react impulsively to everything. The bad choices of the past are lessons learned and you can take empowerment from them.

Step 3: Accept that Whatever You Decide to Do is the Right Decision for You.

Trusting yourself also plays a big part in this process. This includes acceptance as a key part of empowerment because we have no control over what others think of us and we have no control over other people’s reactions. Acceptance means letting go of overthinking and toxic people and behaviors and moving on.

Acceptance ALSO means that you are taking responsibility for your actions and your part in any challenges or conflicts. Trust that you made whatever decision you did in the moment because you felt that was the best option for you at the time. Next time do better. Don’t beat yourself up about past mistakes. This is what maturity looks like. No one is perfect and that’s totally OK. Live and learn. As you grow and learn you will make better choices, you will do better and be better.

By believing in yourself, recognizing your options and accepting whatever it is you decide to do about those options, you can empower yourself. You CAN be your most empowered self, it is possible. It won’t happen overnight but it will happen if you put the work in and continue to grow. Are YOU committed to the process?

Deep breath. One.Step.At.A.Time.


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