New Year, New Love … blah blah blah … we make so many resolutions and decide that this year is the year it’s going to happen … this year is the year we’re going to fall in love. Then, year after year, bad date after bad date, failed relationship after failed relationship you come again to another year. It gets harder and harder every year, not to mention lonelier and lonelier as others around you pair up.
So what do you do? Well, I’ve got some tips to help you find love this year … yes, it is possible, but you’re most likely going to have to do something different than other years, yes, you’re going to have to step into uncomfortable territory, but take it from me, it will all be worth it in the end!
Finding Love This Year
Love could very well be right around the corner! My happily ever after came out of nowhere with someone I totally didn’t expect. Love is possible. You’re not doomed to the single life forever but start by asking yourself what you’ve been doing in the past that hasn’t been working for you and what you could do differently. I’m here to help steer you in the right direction …
Top 5 Ways to Find Love This Year
1: Personal Marketing & Branding
- care about your image, it DOES matter
- put your best foot forward
- have a great first impression
- show people what your “value added” is
- date competitively
- FOR MORE INFO READ: Personal Branding When Dating: Why You Should Care
2: No Risk, No Reward
- try something new
- meet new people
- talk to strangers (safely)
- step out of your comfort zone
- FOR MORE INFO READ: Love is on the Other Side of Your Comfort Zone & How To Be More Spontaneous When Single
3: Go with the Flow
- stop worrying about where something will end up
- enjoy the process
- don’t think about the outcome
- remember that slow and steady wins the race
- FOR MORE INFO READ: Does Slow and Steady STILL Win the Race When Dating?
4: Live in the Moment
- be grateful for today and what you have now
- enjoy being single
- have a full and happy single life
- don’t worry or be anxious about tomorrow
- FOR MORE INFO READ: How Daily Gratitude Brings Love Your Way
5: Follow Your Gut
- if something feels right or wrong it probably is
- avoid those who aren’t on the same path as you, even if you’re lonely
- FOR MORE INFO READ: How To Know You’re Dating A Time Waster & Don’t Let Loneliness Cloud Your Judgement in Dating
So there you have it, how to find love this year! No, you’re NOT unlucky in love! Love is within your grasp, now go out there and have fun!
Watch my CTV Ottawa Morning Live segment about Finding Love in 2018 for these tips and more! 
READERS: What are your thoughts on this? What are you going to do differently this new year to find love? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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Coach Suzie 
The more you plan for something like this and the more desperate you feel, the less likely it is to happen. Instead of going into each potential date as a ‘all or nothing’, start treating them more casually. I’ve found much nicer partners when I stopped looking at them as ‘forever’ material and started just going with the flow. You put too much expectation on yourself and someone else. It’s bound to end in failure. You might not find your forever partner but you’ll certainly meet nicer people and have better experiences.
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I think that is something people mess up. When I did online dating I looked at it as meeting new friends. That way there was less pressure and I met better people.
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Exactly, enjoy the process and have fun, don’t worry about where it’s going. Taking the pressure off and managing your expectations really does make you a more successful dater.
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I agree with all of that. I think as singles we often try to push for that instant gratification and often it doesn’t happen. How often, for example, did many of us see someone online and saw “that’s the one” only to meet and no chemistry or find out they weren’t as they seemed? I also think we often bypass people we already know instead of considering them.
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Many times we invest too much emotion and project our expectations on people we’ve just met. Taking it slow ensures you make informed decisions about interactions with others.
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I think that’s why I am generally positive about these things. I generally believe the friends first approach. Ironically, I do have a male friend I like but he needs to fix himself before it could ever work (and that is to say he wanted to fix his problems).
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